“I love my kids. So why is motherhood so hard for me?”
(un)Natural Mom: Why You Are the Perfect Mom for Your Kids by Hettie Brittz
About this book: (from the publisher) Do you feel like you’re the only mom who serves store-bought birthday treats, dreads school plays, and misses the days of going to the bathroom by herself?
Unnatural Mom gives you permission to say that mothering doesn’t always come naturally to you. Parenting expert and self-proclaimed unnatural mom Hettie Brittz helps you…
—Recognize how unrealistic our culture’s standards of mothering are
—Move beyond the myths of “supermom”
—Complete a profile to determine your own parenting style
—Understand and forgive the mothers who hurt you
—Embrace your capabilities as well as your challenges
Come find new hope in discovering that every mother has unique gifts. In Christ, the “unnatural” mom becomes the supernatural mom who is just right for her family!
About the author: Hettie Brittz is an author, international speaker, and one of South Africa’s foremost voices on parenting advice. She is the developer of the Evergreen Parenting Course and Tall Trees Profiles. Hettie and her husband, Gospel singer Louis Brittz, live in South Africa with their three children.
Genre: Non-fiction/Christian Life/Women’s Issues/Parenting
Reflection: Oh yes, we moms do struggle with confidence in our roles as parents. I personally don’t know any mom who doesn’t. Society (yes, Social Media, I’m looking at you) places so much pressure on moms to do it right. So when a fresh voice comes on the scene that might help me discern my own best parenting practices, I want to hear what she has to say.
Enter Hettie Brittz and (un)Natural Mom.
What I liked most, perhaps, was the fresh content. Like most moms, I’ve read many parenting self-help books with only slight twists on the same topics, but this one had a unique spin on things. On top of that, Brittz’s insights into temperament and personality-types were spot-on. I know many people don’t care for labels, seeing them as putting people in a box. Personally, I find them helpful. They help me to define edges, to discern placement, and they enhance my understanding. Brittz is careful to add a disclaimer to the effect that not every single trait described for a certain type will apply, and this certainly was the case for me. But I found enough resonance to render her conclusions credible.
By the same token, what made this material fresh also made it less accessible. Until the analogies were explained, there was no obvious way for me to see why I should be labeled a Box-Rose (a combo of Boxwood and Rose Bush). Once explained, it did make sense, but before that, as I looked at the table of contents — which uses these labels as chapter headings — I had no way of knowing which sections would help me most immediately.
The other downside — which actually is not a direct reflection on the book — is that the website that determines your profile to find your parenting style (the “test” for which is free) provides no additional information without additional expense (though having the book does allow for a discount). So for help in interpreting your parenting style, you either have to read the book or pay for additional reports.
That said, once I did understand my profile, the book offered a wealth of helpful insights, plus tips and tools to leverage strengths and manage weaknesses. I experienced a series of aha moments, deepening my understanding of self, which in turn allows me to be a more loving, more effective, and — dare I say? — more natural mom.
Thanks to Litfuse Publicity for providing me a free copy to review. All opinions are mine.
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After words: Who is your most trusted source for sound parenting advice? Your mom? Friends? Books?