Boycrazy: And How I Ended Up Single & (Mostly) Sane by Tiffany Dawn
About this book: (from the publisher) Time was ticking away and Tiffany was losing her mind, waiting for Mr. Right to show up and press the “START” button on life. That led to a horribly broken relationship, addiction to attention from guys, and fear — constant, tormenting fear — that no one would ever love her. This book is a novel-like collection of heartaches, fears, and (just for fun) some weird date stories. But it’s also different from your typical book on singleness. It has all sorts of lessons Tiffany wishes she’d learned growing up: tips on how to date, how to be yourself around guys, how to know if a relationship is healthy, and thoughts on what contentment really is. In her humorous, heart-baring way, Tiffany shares her mistakes, questions, and the lessons she learned over the last ten years that brought her from “Boycrazy” to “Single and (Mostly) Sane.”
About the author: 29 and newly married, Tiffany Dawn is an author, speaker, songwriter, and adventurer. She lives in beautiful upstate New York with her husband, James. Her not-so-secret dream is to one day be recruited as a spy, but in the meantime she makes do with Starbucks, road trips, and shopping. Learn more about Tiffany at TiffanyDawn.net.
Genre: Non-fiction/Christian Living/Teen Dating & Relationships
Reminded me of: I Don’t Wait Anymore by Grace Thornton
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Reflection: The longer I live, the more I appreciate this sisterhood of girls — and by that I mean we girls who have become women, and those girls who are still girls. I appreciate the differences that set us girls apart from boys, as well as the similarities that bind us together as part of the human race. But — let’s be honest — it’s the differences that are so particularly fascinating — always (I think), but especially for girls who are on their way to becoming women. And it’s in that tricky phase known as The Teen Years when older girls (i.e., women) are particularly valuable in helping younger girls (i.e., teens) navigate the dating scene on their way to becoming women.
That’s why it’s so good and refreshing to find a voice like Tiffany Dawn’s. At 29, she’s old enough to have put some distance between herself and her own teen years, enabling her to find appropriate godly perspective — and yet young enough to be fresh and interesting to the girls growing up behind her.
Her story, as told in Boycrazy, is one that many, many teens will resonate with in varying degrees. As Tiffany relates her trials and sometimes triumphs, she’s humbly authentic and honest. And as one who’s learned (often the hard way), she has wisdom worth sharing:
“I was just beginning to learn that rejection was simply God’s direction, it didn’t mean there was something wrong with me: it meant He had something else for me. The hard part was trusting Him before I saw what the ‘something else’ was.”
The aspect to Tiffany’s story that some might find a bit off-putting is her focus on looks — both Tiffany’s own and the boys she’s interested in (or not). But Tiffany also seems to acknowledge this as part of the problem — not only for herself, but for most girls everywhere. As such, her story provides a springboard for honest convo.
One other note: I was especially taken in by the thoughtful craftsmanship Tiffany and her design team gave to creating this book. I found its ultra-feminine cover especially appealing. I could easily see this book (as well as Tiffany’s first book, The Insatiable Quest for Beauty) in the hands of moms and daughters, as well as girls and their leaders in youth groups everywhere. Girls will appreciate Tiffany’s breezy conversational style and tone — her vulnerability that encourages authentic sharing. Savvy leaders will appreciate the prepared reflection questions (“Boy Talk”), plus the discussion questions to help guide conversation.
Thanks to the author for providing me a free copy to review. All opinions are mine.
After words: When you were a teenager, who was a mentor-woman in your life?